We were doing everything we thought we were supposed to do. Eating healthy, being intentional about what we brought into the house, trying to give our kids the best start. Then we moved into a new place and noticed a musty smell we couldn't place.
We knew enough to know that mold equals bad - but not much beyond that. We hadn't fully moved in yet, just started bringing our things over. But we weren't about to let our kids sleep there until we knew what we were dealing with.
We had a professional come test it. They found a board screwed over an opening under the kitchen sink. Behind it was black mold. Everywhere. The report came back and said the home was uninhabitable until remediated. Black mold, multiple species, throughout the space.
So we did what we had to do. We got organic cotton mattress covers tight enough to block mold spores. We hired a remediation company. And we started looking for a new place.
But here's the thing about finding something like that - you can't go back to not paying attention.
Before all of this, we thought health was basically nutrition from food. We'd always loved to research, and we already knew about the Dirty Dozen, buying organic, reading labels. But the mold opened our eyes to everything we weren't seeing. We dove down the rabbit hole of what else is in the products we use every day - the stuff that doesn't show up on a nutrition label.
We came across an OEKO-TEX certification on a product and had never seen it before. We looked into it, and that led us even deeper. Toxins in our kids' clothes. In our laundry detergent. In plastic bottles and containers we'd never thought to question. Things that were just normal to us before.
We found a new place and moved in. Then a construction site went up right next door. We really couldn't catch a break.
That's when we learned about air quality - really learned about it. Studies show substantial levels of particulate matter infiltration into homes even with windows and doors closed. So my husband weather-stripped the entire house to reduce PM2.5 infiltration from the construction dust and fumes. We got a TerraBloom carbon filter for VOCs (the same kind used in grow rooms - serious carbon filtration), Winix D360s and D480s throughout our house for particulate matter (we chose those specifically because they're mechanical filters with no ozone output), and an Austin Air HealthMate Pro. We learned the difference between particulate matter and gases like VOCs, and how most air purifier carbon sheets are just dipped in carbon with barely any surface area, so they don't actually handle gases well.
From there it snowballed. We switched to wet wiping instead of dry sweeping - because dry sweeping kicks particles into the air where they get deep into your lungs. We got a Dyson with a true HEPA filter because most vacuums just recirculate what they pick up. We started using microfiber cloths that actually lift and trap particles instead of pushing them around.
We got a Clearly Filtered system for our drinking water and a filter for our showers after learning what's actually in municipal water - the chlorine, the heavy metals, the forever chemicals.
We found out which baby foods had the lowest heavy metal levels. Which cleaning products were actually non-toxic versus just marketed that way. Which probiotics had research behind them and which were just expensive labels.
Every single one of these things required hours of research. Comparing certifications, reading studies, checking who funded what, cross-referencing what the Weston A. Price Foundation recommends versus what Rhonda Patrick's research shows versus what your pediatrician will tell you. And then making our own decision for our family.
Two years in, we're still learning every day. And the thing we keep coming back to is: this information shouldn't be this hard to find.
We're not trying to compete with the researchers and experts we trust. We're trying to put their work - and the real data - in one place so you don't have to spend the hours we spent. So you can actually sit down, look at all the perspectives, and make an informed decision for your family instead of giving up because it's too overwhelming or not knowing where to even start.
That's ThoughtfulMom.
Two parents who went through it, are still going through it, and figured other families shouldn't have to start from scratch.
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